Many of us feel comfortable raising boys because we were—and maybe still are—boys. We’re comfortable with rough-and-tumble, with fishing, shooting hoops, and geeking out with technology. But girls? How do you raise a girl? More importantly, how do you raise a Godly girl?
Based on the latest research and his personal experience as the father of five daughters, author David B. Van Heemst details what a father must do in order to give his daughter strong foundations in Christ. With statistics, anecdotes, and discussion questions, Splashing in Puddles: How to Be a Father to Your Daughter brings clarity to fatherhood’s complexity. Van Heemst shows just how crucial a role the father has in the development of his daughter’s relationship with God, herself, and others.
Any man can teach her how to ride a bike. But only one man can teach her how to walk with God.
“Embrace the ‘Daughter Hippocratic Oath’: Do no harm her—don’t kill her spirit, devalue, shame, tear her down, abuse, neglect, or build insecurity into her. Rather, so deeply value her that she feels and becomes significant and secure.” (source)
“you express your grace-filled relationship with Jesus by cultivating a grace-filled relationship with your daughter” (source)
“Etched into the heart of good fathering is this simple phrase: be with her.” (source)
“Be there to make the highs of her life happier and the lows of life more bearable. Educate yourself about her developmental process and her female needs. Give to her with a reckless abandonment so that she can flourish. And through all of that, wrap her and your relationship with her in the love of God’s scandalous grace.” (source)
“You can positively influence your daughter’s future behavior by picking and then living out of the democratic style.” (source)